Thursday, 28 August 2008

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    By Shawn McDonald
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    To Worry or Not to Worry?

    So, we’re 43 days away from the BIG day! J

    It’s an exciting time in my life right now and at the same time it’s a little bit scary too. It’s not a bad kind of scared. It’s more like a nervousness/worry for me. I’ve talked to Aaron about it. I’m not afraid to get married or be married to him, I’m just nervous about what comes after marriage…the rest of our lives.

    •     I worry that I won’t be a good wife because I didn’t exactly have the best example.
    •   I worry that we’ll fight all the time because I’m not the greatest communicator. (although,  I have come a very long way in the past year)
    •   I worry that I’ll fail and let God, my soon-to-be husband and everyone I love down.
    •   I just worry sooo much and I know that I shouldn’t.

    I’ve ALWAYS been a worry-wart. I grew up worrying about EVERYTHING. I really dislike that that’s the truth. It’s true that most of the things I worry about don’t ever come about but for some reason that worry continues.

    I keep praying that these worries will disappear but you know how it is. You pray and pray but until you’re ready to let it go and BELIEVE that God is in control, those worries don’t go away. I struggle with this sometimes. SO, pray that I can REALLY hand this all over to God.  I know He’s really trying to teach me something right now.  

    Last night at our Celebrate Recovery leadership meeting we went through a “Recovery Check-up” training. It as really awesome. We talked about the Big 3 areas in our lives that are roadblocks in our recovery.

    Ø  Failures of the past,

    Ø  Denial of the present

    Ø  Fear of the future.

     

    As we went through the questions that went with each roadblock I was smacked up against the head with things I hadn’t realized have been tearing at me lately. As we got to the last part of the check-up, “Fear of the Future” there were some questions asked that really made me think and a couple of light bulbs went onJ

     

    There’s a lot of change going on in my life right now.

    Good changeJ

    God changeJ

     

    None of it is anything I shouldn’t be able to handle without my God, my Father, my Lord and my Savior by my side. J There isn’t any area of my life that I can’t trust Him with. J

     

    “So don’t be anxious about tomorrow. God will take care of your tomorrow too. Live one day at a time”. Matthew 6:34 Living Bible

     

    “That is why we can say without any doubt or fear, The Lord is my Helper, and I am not afraid of anything...” HEBREWS 13:6 Living Bible

     

    I love The Message version of Philippians 4:6-7

    "Don't fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God's wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It's wonderful what happens when Christ dispaces worry at the center of your life."

    Aaron, as always has been amazing…he’s so reassuring and positive and he doesn’t lack in showing me just how much he cares about what I’m thinking and feeling. I couldn’t ask for more in my future.

    I’m standing on God’s Word and His promises!

    Anyone else struggle with this?

Comments (7)

  • leadworshipper82

    i'm so there with you on this one.... but a different situation...


    i think though... i don't really think youre fiance cares what kind of wife you feel you're not gonna be... i really think he just wants you as his wife... and knowing what frailties youre carrying with you... he just wants to walk with you through it... not really caring too much what the semantics of such ideals are... just the fact that to him... he's at home regardless of the situation which means... at least what I can gather... he just wants to work through whatever it is with you, not caring really what you have just so long as he can be a part of it, and fully understanding the fact that he is living in the paradox of knowing your humanity and resting on Christ's divinity and living in that balanced tension...


    stress... sure... why not?  Jesus was stressed at the Garden....


    worry... i'd be a liar to tell you not to be concerned... i think you hold legitimate concerns... i wouldn't be so trebidacious that it stops you from marrying him... but i'd say since you communicated your fears to him...


    now watch as he pulls his pants up and carries your pain and his and walks with you through it... which is what I believe he wants most anyways... to just be with you regardless of what happens... knowing that Christ is holding the both of you together and loving the joy of loving you fully aware of the hardships to come but glad you're just with him....


    which all i can say is take heart and trust that God is leading and guiding and growing your fiance... and be in awe of Christ as He does this for both of you...


    that's my 2 cents...


    but i'm in a struggle right now with this whole idea... just a different situation is all...

  • leslieann4908

    @leadworshipper82 - None of these fears will keep me from marrying him:) There's no doubt God wants me to spend the rest of my life with him:) And I AM so glad that I can share my fears with him without fear. *Sigh*


    Thanks for your 2 cents;)

  • leadworshipper82

    @leslieann4908 - and honestly... all he wants is you... everything you have, everything you don't know you have, everything you lack, everything you offer, everything you don't offer, everything you can't offer, everything about you... he just wants you... nothing else matters...


    and i think he feels the same way...

  • therosebotts@xanga

    How cool to have such a great support system such as Celebrate Recovery, PRAISE GOD!

  • baronmax02
    Something sweet.

    My love,

    I told you when I proposed, you're my life now.  You're a part of me; irreplaceable, necessary, and undeniable.  I know you worry a lot, and I've made it a personal mission to help you NOT worry so much.  I'm not perfect, we both know that very well .  But that doesn't mean that I won't do my best to keep you sane and happy (I like you sane and happy).

    First, you have some of the greatest examples you could ever ask for.  Mary K, Connie, Debbie, Ruby, Nilda, and Pam (to name only a few).  You have such a deep well of understanding and wisdom to pull from.

    Second, so we fight; we'll make up.  I love you and I'm committed to you.  You're not the only one who believes that divorce is not an option for us .  We've both come so far in our communication skills and we're going to keep growing.

    Third, focusing on the possibility of failure helps no one.  We've seen that time and again in our lives and the lives of others around us.  Instead, remember that everything in Christ Jesus is possible, especially a healthy marriage and spiritual life.

    Last, we've already talked about your worries and fears, so I won't go that much more into it.  I just want you to remember that, with God, you have nothing to fear.  God says His perfect love drives out fear.  Rely on Him, trust Him, and trust me.

    I'm definitely looking forward to the paradox Leadworshipper82 was talking about.

    I love you, I'm grateful for you, and I'm definitely grateful for the people God's placed in our lives.

  • shanella

    Hi lady, i'm happy for you! :) you have a good support there in your future hubby and that's great.

    It's so hard for me sometimes to let God handle my worries, but then the way I get to let go is to tell myself, by NOT letting go and by worrying I am limiting the work that God can do for me ... sometimes that works, but most of all pray pray pray.

  • cowboy67

    Hi guys, we are so happy for you. Marriage is hard work sometime  But you can't expect something that is so wonderful, to be able to spend the rest of your life with the one you love  to really be humdrum and easy
    I just saw your blog and had to say something!
    I think you both are getting a wonderful mate
    We love you, David & Tana
                                    

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